Different individuals require a different approach. Some people need to be told bluntly. A few tend to listen when a third party tells them instead of hearing it from their own kin/kith. Some need a harsh reminder to give them a wakeup call. Others we can give them advice without going into detail and they get the message. There are times where people will want a daleel after daleel. Many require a soft approach or just a gentle reminder. Some people just don’t listen and seem to not care. At times we may get caught up into the affairs of others and neglect ourself. Nevertheless,
You, yourself try to:
- · Stay on deen and pray salah on time
- Do all the fundamentals required by you
- · Show good character – truth shines through character – the first dawah one gives to someone is via character
- · Bond with them
- · Give to charity
- · Don’t be ashamed to pray around the person in question when you’re outside. If you continue to do so, they will see the importance of the act and consistency within yourself.
- Ask them to do wudu before leaving the house. When the time for salah comes they won’t have the excuse that they can’t pray due to lack of wudu. Sometimes people don’t pray because they are embarrassed to make wudu in front of others or can’t be bothered to do so.
- · Make dua for them
- · Encourage them or engage them in doing other acts of worship/seeking knowledge instead of pointing out that they’re not currently doing a command of Allah (swt), even if obligatory. They will slowly come round too practicing the obligatory or the way they’re supposed follow the deen
At the end of the day we should try to be a prime example although we may not be perfect ourselves. Leading by example can slowly motivate others.