Signs of Laylat-ul-Qadr

  • It will be a calm night
  • No wind
  • Not too hot nor too cold 1
  • Peaceful night 2
  • Moon looks like a plate (bowl). Some narrations say it will look like half a plate (bowl). 3
  • Possibility of rain
  • The sun won’t have rays the following morning 1,4

Sources used:

[1] – Sahih Al-Jami’/ibn Khuzaymah

[2] – Quran [97:5]

[3] – Muslim

[4] – Ahmad

Friendship

A stranger wrote to me, the following.


With Ramadan approaching, I think it would be a good time for us all to reflect on our friendships and renew our intentions regarding them in shaa Allah. “There is seven whom Allah will shade on a day when there is no shade but his… Two men who love one another for the sake of Allah and meet and part on that basis…” [Bukhārī and Muslim].

Forming friendships and relationships is an innate desire for us. We unknowingly influence each other; we shape each other’s lives and personalities and work towards common goals together. Let us make the primary common goal to get closer to Allah SWT and to be actively conscious of our duty to Allah in our friendships. Let’s talk to each other about the beauty of the Quran and the Sunnah, let’s remind each other not to sin and let’s help each other in fulfilling our duties to the Almighty.
Let us make it so that our friendships are a cause of joy and gratification in the hereafter and on the day of Judgement. What an enormous, beautiful blessing it is that Allah has decreed us to meet and become close to our friends!
Ramadan is the perfect opportunity to reach out to your friends and maintain those pivotal relationships. Set goals together about what you want to achieve in this blessed month, hold (yourself and) your friends accountable, check up on them regularly, send them a delicious recipe for iftar that you love or post them some dates they can break their fasts with. There is something very wholesome and beautiful about worshipping Allah with the people you love and we should not underestimate the motivation and reward that can come from this, in shaa Allah.


May Allah keep us all in good company and may Allah make us good company. May Allah make us of the people that are granted shade on the day of judgement and may we be reunited with our friends in Jannah. Ameen.


I hope you found the above message beneficial and a different take on the relationship between friendship and Ramadan.

10 Signs You’re Possibly Ready to get Married – if you are looking to get married | JustSomeThoughts

  1. You are confident in yourself and don’t require people to validate you
  2. You’re interested in attaining the best of jannah for yourself and those around you (this will include your spouse after marriage)
  3. You have been learning and researching the dos, the donts, expectations, roles and responsibilities, raising children, etc.
  4. You’re thinking long term about marriage life and preparing yourself, not just thinking about the Bollywood/Hollywood style wedding
  5. You know what you’re looking for and want in your future spouse> you know what you can tolerate, will not compromise nor deal with. You also know who you are – for the most part
  6. For brothers: You are financially stable – this doesn’t mean you need to be rich. Enough finances to support your wife (possibly parents and sisters) and future family.
  7. Understand that sometimes you may need to compromise or even sacrifice
  8. Understand that everybody is different. And although you may have many similarities with the potential spouse there will also be many differences that may arise.
  9. You want to add value to the lives of others
  10. You’re ready to complete half your deen. You’re ready to share a part of your life with someone else.

How can we get Someone who knows the religion but is not practicing the fundamentals or are not regular with them, to start practicing?

Different individuals require a different approach. Some people need to be told bluntly. A few tend to listen when a third party tells them instead of hearing it from their own kin/kith. Some need a harsh reminder to give them a wakeup call. Others we can give them advice without going into detail and they get the message. There are times where people will want a daleel after daleel. Many require a soft approach or just a gentle reminder. Some people just don’t listen and seem to not care. At times we may get caught up into the affairs of others and neglect ourself. Nevertheless,

You, yourself try to:

  • · Stay on deen and pray salah on time
  • Do all the fundamentals required by you
  • · Show good character – truth shines through character – the first dawah one gives to someone is via character
  • · Bond with them
  • · Give to charity
  • · Don’t be ashamed to pray around the person in question when you’re outside. If you continue to do so, they will see the importance of the act and consistency within yourself.
  • Ask them to do wudu before leaving the house. When the time for salah comes they won’t have the excuse that they can’t pray due to lack of wudu. Sometimes people don’t pray because they are embarrassed to make wudu in front of others or can’t be bothered to do so.
  • · Make dua for them
  • · Encourage them or engage them in doing other acts of worship/seeking knowledge instead of pointing out that they’re not currently doing a command of Allah (swt), even if obligatory. They will slowly come round too practicing the obligatory or the way they’re supposed follow the deen

At the end of the day we should try to be a prime example although we may not be perfect ourselves. Leading by example can slowly motivate others.

The Neural Model of Learning

I’ve been learning about how to learn recently. Thought I’ll share some of the points that I took from the course.

  1. Knowing 
  • Knowing is the ability to recognise something we have encountered before (i.e. the ability to distinguish between new and old information). 
  • Knowing does not mean that you understand the information at all, just that you remember seeing the information before. 
  1. Understanding 
  • Understanding involves connecting the new piece of information to something else you already know. 
  • Making these connections gives more meaning to the information. 
  • Stage 3 involves using the knowledge that you understand. 
  • The more you use knowledge in different contexts, the more connections are created. 
  • More connections usually lead to stronger memory traces and a deeper understanding. 
  • Using knowledge in different ways and contexts means more connections are created. 
  1. Mastering 
  • When enough connections are created, we finally master the knowledge. 
  • We say that this knowledge has become part of our schemas. 
  • Schemas are our prior knowledge and learning sets. These act as the platform for new learning to happen in the future. 
  • After using the knowledge many times and in multiple contexts, you will have created enough connections to say you have mastered that knowledge. 
  • Now, you are ready to learn something new and return to the first stage.