Have Mercy on the Student

I’ve been teaching for a while now Alhamdulillah. Through experience and with the inspiration from my own teachers I have come to learn that it is important to have mercy on students.

Every teacher will have different expectations. Make this clear from the beginning to ensure you and the students are on the same page. Just like the way Khidr (ra) set the scene for Musa (as). Notify your students about your temperament.

“Invite to the way of Your Lord with wisdom and fair preaching.” (Quran 16:125)

Here are a few supporting reasons from Islamic Scripture exemplifying why one should be merciful towards others, including their students.

On the authority of Abu Hurayrah (ra), who said that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: When Allah decreed the Creation He pledged Himself by writing in His book which is laid down with Him: My mercy prevails over My wrath. [Hadith Qudsi – Muslim].

How amazing is that. Our Lord who is Just, Fair, Majestic and All things Mighty – has stated Himself that HIS MERCY will always be greater than His wrath. Should we not as teachers be more merciful than continuously disciplining our students, worse yet, overwhelming or burdening them? This does not mean we shouldn’t set coursework, be strict with deadlines, advise them to manage time, etc. But we should also be amongst those who are considerate. This hadith also gives me hope and encourages me to move forward and do better, after a slip.

The following is just beautiful and so true. The Hadith speaks for itself.

‘A’isha (ra) reported that Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) said: Kindness is not to be found in anything but that it adds to its beauty and it is not withdrawn from anything but it makes it defective. [Sahih Muslim]

Musa (as) was advised to approach Firaun who was a tyrant with gentleness and kindness. Further to this, if the Prophet (saw) was not gentle whilst giving dawah or just as, in his daily interactions, people would not have wanted to listen to him (saw). The Prophet (saw) was a mercy to mankind. If as Muslims we try to follow in his (saw) footsteps shall we not also adopt his character/traits.

“So by mercy from Allah, [O Muḥammad], you were lenient with them. And if you had been rude [in speech] and harsh in heart, they would have disbanded from about you. So pardon them and ask forgiveness for them and consult them in the matter. And when you have decided, then rely upon Allah….” [3:159] – Sahih International. Taken from Quran.com

“So, it is through mercy from Allah that you are gentle to them. Had you been rough and hard-hearted, they would have dispersed from around you. So, pardon them and seek Forgiveness for them. And consult them in the matter, and once you have taken a decision, place your trust in Allah…” [3:159] – Ma’riful Quran

“And indeed, you (Muhammad) are of a great moral character.” [68:4]

Jarir bin ‘Abdullah (ra) reported: Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, “He who is deprived of forbearance and gentleness is deprived of all good.” [Muslim]

Overlook the mistakes of students where possible. They are here to learn after all. Explain to them where appropriate and needed why a particular course of action was taken. This may enable them to understand and it avoids resentment. Children are curious little creatures, they will bound to have questions and teens may challenge you, which isn’t necessarily disrespectful given they approach you in a respectful and polite manner. Khidr eventually explained his actions to Musa (as) at the end, after all. Nevertheless, it should not be to the extent where an explanation is expected to be given for everything. Consider asking the students to reflect or leave the matter alone.

If you and a student have had a misunderstanding and it seems as though it will be best to part ways – part ways on amicable terms. The religion is sincere advice [Muslim]. In other words, The religion is wishing well for others.

Teachers have a good status around the world. Show to the students why it’s the case. If the profession is not respected, show to them why it ought to be.

Many students aren’t just students, especially as they grow older. They are parents, carers, workers, volunteers, have hobbies, health concerns, financial worries, going through personal issues, may be studying another discipline. They may also have other commitments.

We are in need of Allah’s mercy. What better way to seek His Mercy by being merciful to our students. Remember once when you were a student. It wasn’t always easy. If you are still a student, would you/do you not appreciate a teacher who has mercy towards you?

How can we get Someone who knows the religion but is not practicing the fundamentals or are not regular with them, to start practicing?

Different individuals require a different approach. Some people need to be told bluntly. A few tend to listen when a third party tells them instead of hearing it from their own kin/kith. Some need a harsh reminder to give them a wakeup call. Others we can give them advice without going into detail and they get the message. There are times where people will want a daleel after daleel. Many require a soft approach or just a gentle reminder. Some people just don’t listen and seem to not care. At times we may get caught up into the affairs of others and neglect ourself. Nevertheless,

You, yourself try to:

  • · Stay on deen and pray salah on time
  • Do all the fundamentals required by you
  • · Show good character – truth shines through character – the first dawah one gives to someone is via character
  • · Bond with them
  • · Give to charity
  • · Don’t be ashamed to pray around the person in question when you’re outside. If you continue to do so, they will see the importance of the act and consistency within yourself.
  • Ask them to do wudu before leaving the house. When the time for salah comes they won’t have the excuse that they can’t pray due to lack of wudu. Sometimes people don’t pray because they are embarrassed to make wudu in front of others or can’t be bothered to do so.
  • · Make dua for them
  • · Encourage them or engage them in doing other acts of worship/seeking knowledge instead of pointing out that they’re not currently doing a command of Allah (swt), even if obligatory. They will slowly come round too practicing the obligatory or the way they’re supposed follow the deen

At the end of the day we should try to be a prime example although we may not be perfect ourselves. Leading by example can slowly motivate others.

Imam Ghazali (rh) – Kitab Riyadhat al-Nafs

  • Restriction in eating = prevents lowly desires
  • Appropriate amount of sleep = feel productive and energised (when dedicating time to do things during the day, especially morning/early afternoon) leading to wanting to be more productive, hence being productive and cycle continues
  • Speaking less and not when required = save tongue from hellfire, hence ourselves from hell fire and injustice towards others e.g. backbiting, slander, swearing, mocking etc or spreading ill using tongue. Saves time as well and ensures not wasted e.g. by not gossiping, not beating around the bush when getting something done especially in a ‘professional’ environment and with friends
  • Not concerning oneself with what others have to say and those who have wronged us = saves the mind from worry and unduly stress. Save time from thinking about such matters. This equals better physical health and mental health, hence better spiritual health

Advice & Action

Come to me with your advice when I am alone

And do not advise me in the crowd

Because advice amongst the people is a scolding

And I do not like to hear it aloud

Then if you disobey me and do not heed my words

Do no feel sad when you are not followed

Imam Ash-Shafi’ (rh)

Verily the heart has moments of yearning and responsiveness. And moments of indifference and refusal. So snatch it at the time of yearning and response. And leave it at the time of indifference and refusal

-‘ibn Masud (ra)

Don’t convey the truth in a challenging manner

-Imam Ghazali (rh)

Do not be affected by worry or anger when people show a negative response to advice

-JustSomeThoughts

Virtues of 10 AMAZING Adkhar we may overlook

It’s been a while, I know 😔.
Since my last post, I have joined a new school (online home-school) 😁👌!
So far it has been really good Alhamdulillah, if you want to know more about it, let me know and maybe I could do a post on it?

Anyhow, today’s post is going to be about the virtues of some Beautiful Adkhar, ᵖ.ˢ ˢᵒᵐᵉᵒⁿᵉ ᵉˡˢᵉ ʷʳᵒᵗᵉ ᵐᵒˢᵗ ᵒᶠ ᵗʰᶦˢ ᵖᵒˢᵗ ⁽ᴵ ʲᵘˢᵗ ᵗʷᵉᵃᵏᵉᵈ ᶦᵗ ᵃ ᵇᶦᵗ⁾.
There are so many amazing Adkhar. Here are a few to encourage us to say them and know their benefits. InshaAllah you learn something new, but if not then I hope this serves as a reminder …. Reminders benefit the believers right?

  1. Prophet (saw) said:
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